This post presents an alternative to the candle-lighting ceremony for bat-mitzvah and bar-mitzvah celebrants, in which honored individuals each pour wine or grape juice representing an ingredient in the “recipe” for a good life into a large brandy snifter (13 for each year plus one for good luck) . At the end, the celebrant recites kiddush and takes a sip. Although the ceremony offers a suggested list of honored guests and blessings, these can obviously be altered to suit your specific situation. Created by Rabbi Anchelle Perl, director and spiritual leader of Chabad of Mineola, this ritual was shared on Ritualwell, a project of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College that provides a platform for creating new Jewish practices and observances.